This week I read the article by Psychology Today, 10 Reasons to Stop Judging People, by Barbara Markway. This article interested me because in today's society it is very easy to judge people and be judgmental of somebody's actions, but in reality there is a good chance you don't know anything about them. I was curious to see what this article had to say.
The 10 things you can do to stop judging people, according to this article are:
1) Don't Blame Yourself
2) Be Mindful
3) Depersonalize
4) Look for Basic Goodness
5) Repeat the mantra "Just Like Me"
6) Reframe
7) Look at your own Behavior
8) Educate Yourself
9) Give the Person the Benefit of the Doubt
10) Feel Good About You
I think that the first one, don't blame yourself, is a great one because sometimes it is hard to control your thoughts and you often will find yourself judging people and it might be over something little. In the end, the more aware we are and the more we recognize that we shouldn't be blaming ourselves, the more we can move forward and start to have more empathy for one another.
Another important point, which goes back to what I said in the beginning of this post, was to educate yourself, because chances are you have no idea what is going on in this person's life. The more you get to know them the more you are going to be able to have empathy for them and help them instead of judging them.
In the end, its about feeling good about yourself. If you are happy with where and who you are and that person isn't really bothering you, there is no reason to judge them. So for the most part minding your own business and working to better yourself is the most important step in stopping judging others.
Source: 10 Reasons to Stop Judging People
The 10 things you can do to stop judging people, according to this article are:
1) Don't Blame Yourself
2) Be Mindful
3) Depersonalize
4) Look for Basic Goodness
5) Repeat the mantra "Just Like Me"
6) Reframe
7) Look at your own Behavior
8) Educate Yourself
9) Give the Person the Benefit of the Doubt
10) Feel Good About You
I think that the first one, don't blame yourself, is a great one because sometimes it is hard to control your thoughts and you often will find yourself judging people and it might be over something little. In the end, the more aware we are and the more we recognize that we shouldn't be blaming ourselves, the more we can move forward and start to have more empathy for one another.
Another important point, which goes back to what I said in the beginning of this post, was to educate yourself, because chances are you have no idea what is going on in this person's life. The more you get to know them the more you are going to be able to have empathy for them and help them instead of judging them.
In the end, its about feeling good about yourself. If you are happy with where and who you are and that person isn't really bothering you, there is no reason to judge them. So for the most part minding your own business and working to better yourself is the most important step in stopping judging others.
Source: 10 Reasons to Stop Judging People
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Hi Stephanie!
ReplyDeleteI found this post in the blog stream for extra commenting and I'm glad I came across this! I think the article gave really good ways to judge others. I do agree with you though on minding your own business and working on bettering yourself. Ultimately, I think people only judge others because they are worried or insecure with who they are themselves as a person. Great post!